Infj intense crushes you cause i’m currently in hi guys, i’m an infj female myself, but i’m curious about how your behaviour changes when you’re around your crush, interacting with your crush, etc. 33 votes, 64 comments. They have an outstanding ability to stalk your social media profile to get the information they need — your What are you views on the 'secrecy' of crushes? I agree with you to an extent. Cartoonish, almost. 0 coins. Open menu Open and I'd even say I get this way for platonic relationships 39 votes, 34 comments. An ESTJ is From what I've heard infj's and enfj's can learn soooo muchh from each other as their secondary functions Fe (Infj) or Ni (Enfj) are inverted. However, once I'm with someone, it's impossible for me to even get a minor crush on anyone else - it's as if any and all possibilities of feeling anything for anyone else shuts down and intensity of feelings increases for the person I'm with, which makes breakups especially difficult. He's blunt, argumentative, highly opinionated (he doesn't like it when people argue poorly, and will pretty much show them how inadequate their argument is with pretty harsh, but truthful words), competitive, and insensitive at times - er, well Are INFJs capable of non-super-intense friendships? Thread starter ivagrey The reason most often that INFJs don't give advice for just anyone is that our insights into people are usually too much for them to handle. They will be very long emails. I told her before I realized why I actually liked her, it wasn't mutual, and now we have some weird on and off friendship going on. As an adult INFJ I've learned to stop crushing on people. Idk how to turn the intensity off nor do I want to, so I just basically told me crush indirectly a bunch of times LOOK IM INTENSE, IM SUPER SERIAL and I suppose he digs it - so then I slowly trickle more long term crush could be an infatuation that the person cannot shake off. They must be felt with the heart. My problem is that I usually develop crushes on the wrong girls/women who are quite extroverted and charming. also depends; crushes for teens and adolscents are entirely different for crushes for older and mature people. Reply reply I've had this one intense "crush" on an ISTJ guy for a while. He was a 100% INFJ. I am now experiencing a situation where I am kind of waiting for a guy I have a crush on to text me first (after Metalcore (or metallic hardcore) is a fusion music genre that combines elements of extreme metal and hardcore punk. I will definitely go from having an intense, deep conversation to wanting to have a few moments where I don't need to speak Adorably frustrating when they have crushes or romantic feelings. but 6 years is quite a long time to know someone. But then the crush before that I realized I only liked because she treated me better than anyone else I had known before we met. INFJs are awkward around their crush. I just wanted to spell out some of my thoughts here before I go get my girl. By exploring the similarities and differences between INFJs and other MBTI INFJ love is deep and intense. By understanding your core values and motivations, you can i read somewhere that infjs easily get attached over someone once they like them/find them interesting. INTP. Imagining what it would be like if we were together etc. There's something about their energy that feeds my own heightened sense of However, any conflict can feel very intense and catastrophic because ENFPs and INFJs highly value harmony in their relationship. Best. Or I just have genuine contempt for you. I don't know if he's religious or whether he's a Male INFJ here, not sure if this applies for girls as well as I've read female INFJ are quite different: She remembers very specific details about everything you tell her, for example, mundane details such as your favorite salad dressing, clothes that you don't like, etc. S. They are the BEST of friends and I enjoy hearing about when they visit each other. 77 votes, 44 comments. I subtly let them know and then I overthink and ignore them and act almost like I don’t have a crush on I feel like my experience has been quite different from most people I know (I mean everyone's unique, but I'm wondering if it's typical for INFJs since a fellow INFJ seems to have a similar experience with it). I mention this a lot, but it’s true. But if an INFJ is under too much stress, we might be prone to anxiety, depression, or even display intense rage toward other people and things. 18yo me - freaked out first time having such intense feeling towards a guy. Relationships Friendship Love Confessions Personal Development Blog Self-Discovery Self-Improvement Mental Health Free Stories INFJ Crush Corner About Contact Subscribe. Huh. On a side note: healthy INFJs must stay healthy around ENTJs. In all my imagined conversations with him (because I don't have 94 votes, 12 comments. 3. I am INFJ and usually not intense or open about my feelings. There are real consequences to revealing crushes too soon or at all. The question stem does portray a bit of a As an INFJ, I married an ISFP. I'm not sure if it's romantic. i rarely get crushes but when i do, it's so overwhelming. And advice. For me personally I've always felt like having a crush/generally having feelings for someone is an insanely physical experience. His introspection, intense emotions, and desire to do what is right reflect the core traits often associated with INFJs. The real question is- do we act upon every crush? At least for me (and I would guess for People having crushes in general. The minute I crush my chances of dating them goes to zero. This makes possible obsession fade for the unattainable crush. Preferences are the unique dimensions that characterize a personality I’ve only found one forum which explores this, but the majority focus on how INFJs handle having crushes on other people (let’s not go into this embarrassing topic haha). 94 votes, 12 comments. What do INTPs do? Edit With intensity I don´t mean in this topic any angry or otherwise negative behaviour, reactions to those would be of course understandable. I find that if I make an emotional or intellectual connection with someone, it can often spark a strong crush. If you want to delve into the dark secrets of the INFJ universe, search no more. Infj's are very intense individuals with (INFJ or otherwise) INTENSE AS A METAL FENCE! Can someone be both intense and laid-back, or is that by nature two opposite things? Of course, but not all at once. Not only this but my school also had this thing where her and another girl (who was my best friend) would stand at the entrance to the hallway and shake hands with students coming in and I would always avoid shaking her hand and go to my friend instead. This can lead to them avoiding the object of their affection altogether, as they may not know how to handle the intensity of their emotions. However, it is important to note that not all INFJs will avoid their crushes, as individuals vary in their preferences and experiences. Controversial. Hello dear INFJ, I (F40) am in a very new relationship with an INFJ man (30) since very recently. Like, I clearly have heart eyes when I'm looking at my crush and especially if she's If you've ever had a crush as an INFJ, you know how intense an experience it can be. Out of 174K subscribers in the infj community. To achieve this feat I make up stories in my I don't think I'm outright limerent, but there are patterns I've noticed in myself that lean that way, from how long its taken me to move on from my ex, to having an intense crush on a girl that I barely know and know can't ever be a thing (though there is a seemingly strong connection when we make eye contact/interact which is probably somewhat of a reason I have a strong crush When I had my first crush on a girl when I was 12, I avoided her constantly. 178K subscribers in the infj community. There is no middle ground. We've worked together for 18 years. For Me: A Male ENFP would be a better emotional/logical fit. It’s well past time that I took the initiative to tell her how I feel, especially because I’m quite confident she feels the same way. When it comes to their crushes, INFJs may exhibit a range of behaviors, including avoiding them. Developing a crush can be a harrowing experience for many people because of the intense emotions and the constant wondering about whether feelings are reciprocated. Featured content New This sub is maintained by INTPs for INTPs. I find that when i crush on someone they have to vibe with me, truly get me and vice versa. My only worry is wtf is it taking so long for my ENTJ crush to recognize that we can have something reeal together. To resolve conflict, the ENFP and INFJ can work to understand each other’s coping mechanisms. INFJs are just intense humans by nature so it’s okay. I JUST met another INTP who I think I'm pretty INTJs crave companionship, but they also set too high a bar for the rest of the world to meet. i function great normally but now all i do is imagine being with her, talking with her in these different situations. So we're talking subtle signs. I'm an INFJ. My way of being extroverted is simply by being interestED not interestING. I still If you’re eager to be the INFJ love match for your crush, keep on reading. They've been best friends for over 50 years! I'm an ESTJf and get along great with the INFJ too. If you're a girl and I get all tongue tied and mumble a lot and just not acting like myself what so ever, I probably like you. INFJs may habitually replay negative memories from the past over and over again. They can be friendly and good communicators, but they also struggle with small talk and can get awkward. I am INTJ with a very strong F. My mom is the most intense person I have ever met. i have a crush one of my friends who i have confessed to a few months ago, unfortunately i got friendzoned but somehow i’m still so attached to this person, i like them a lot and i really care about them but i don’t show it when i’m INFJs, as introverted and intuitive individuals, tend to have a complex and intricate inner world. In fact, INFJs are a personality type that takes dating very seriously. If you’re an INFJ or someone who loves deeply and you would like tips and advice about crushes, unrequited love, and the search for a romantic partner, feel free to join “The INFJ Search for Love” newsletter! Last updated: December 2, 2024 An INFJ will find a really crazy and intense way of complimenting you that's not normal and potentially hard to understand. Weirdly intense. I would freeze up whenever she tried to talk to me. INFJ Crush Corner is a place for INFJs to lose themselves in the intensity of INFJ crushes while also getting helpful, in-depth advice on When I have my crush one on one, I'll ask her questions. Particularly her father was INFP and works in family science, mom & brother ISFJ, and a sister INFJ, whom she is close with (she teases that I'm a good INFJ vs. I know. You're just naming traits that literally ANY personality type can have. There's this guy at this cinema I always go to, not often but enough to gain a crush on one of the staff. Oh yeah. Show your love by doing small, unexpected things that make them feel loved and appreciated. because while I want a really intense connection I don't want to waste my time on anyone who doesn't pass a This INFJ girl I’m dating does this and I’ve gotten used to it. When I have a crush on someone, outwardly, I think I'm pretty obvious about it. There are seven more or less distinct stages that they tend to go through. Step 1: Develop a crush Step 2: Stare at her while you fantasize an alternate reality where you’re dating Stress can bring out INFJ’s dark sides. But if you’ll let The INFJ letters stand for the 4 Preferences that this type embodies: Introversion, Intuition, Feeling and Judging. He told That is more what I had expected to see-- or if the fan girl/fan boy thing, more like an intense passion for a particular topic/show/book rather than a romantic fantasy. Trying to understand why she is the way she is. Then by your own admission, you forced him to make physical contact with you and then try to claim to others that he "held your hand". Not all INFJs are "kind". An ESTJ is pragmatic, not romantic. ENFP and INFJs develop close friendships around shared emotions. So, if you’re ready to crack the code and find out if your INFJ crush is into you, keep reading! How To Know If An INFJ Girl Likes You. Home. The person having a crush will always want to move too fast. I want to have fun, and enjoy life - not gaze into each other. Plus, he probably gives you food so he gets on your nice side and that you think of him well. Trying The weird thing is, after high school, my crush for him developed intensely. Open comment sort options Not saying you have this but your description of the entrancement/intensity of crush reminded 4. The eyes have it all. INFJs are so intense in their feelings, they can never be toned down into friendship, IMO. They’re introspective, analytical and artistic. As an infj boy with a crush, one of the things he is most likely thinking is “what if this happens, what if that happens, what if she says no” things like that. We would seldom get along, but whatever the circumstances were (being in other relationships, being merely acquaintances, being socially awkward introverts, etc. But since im a very deep guy who only listens to people having conversations and seldomly speaks, I find it hard to strike up a conversation (small talk) with friends that eventually lead to deeper things on 1v1 situations, especially if I dont have a deep connection with that person. Challenging and Tough Love. So intense Edit: but in other cases it could definitely be what you said tbh Reply reply [deleted] • Mutual attraction doesn't eliminate the fear of rejection, if anything it makes the stakes higher. then again; it could be loveor the recognition that perhaps you know and loved this person in a prior lifetime. I have a crush. Members. Because of its intensity and uniqueness, As an INFJ, the only notable thing I have in common with how I have always been around my crushes is this: I become obsessed. Diving Some INFJs stare intensely, others don't. INFJS AREN'T PERFECT MAGICAL INFALLIBLE UNICORNS. INFJ Crush Corner is a place for INFJs to lose themselves in the intensity of INFJ crushes while also getting helpful, in-depth advice on INFJs stalk their crushes. They date for three months. Like Jack Frost x Elsa. While some of them can maintain a balance between their good and bad sides, others get lost on the way. her sister whose J is a bit untempered) and some NT's. You may see them The INFJ stare is a hallmark of the INFJ personality type—this intense, penetrating gaze is one of the defining physical features of INFJs. Open comment sort options The INFJ death stare either you betrayed them and they are trying to determine INFJs’ intense nature can be explained by the fact that they are always looking for hidden meanings in everything in their lives. MC and her crush “INFJ” are both very nerdy and shy people. P. That's For redditors identifying as or interested in INFJs (Ni-Fe-Ti-Se) as described by MBTI. 8 Tips to Help INFJs INFJs are incredibly intense. This took me by complete surprise, and has been a source of much consternation and INFJ-style ruminating ever since. Old. Even with my friends, I avoided them at first but they kept insisting on being my friend and I finally just accepted them and now we've been friends for like 10 The usual state I think for INFJ is passive. https://LAURENSAPALA. I see possibilities, and think oh, this would be wonderful. And remember, INFJs focus on self-improvement and enjoy the idea of planning and building towards something. You being INFJ I’m sure I’d say everyone is different & it’s not just an INFJ thing. They don’t really like small talk, but give them a topic they’re passionate about, and you’ll see their gregarious side. You are claiming to be INFJ so your title reads, so put in order from worst to best, using Fe the feeling sadness, anger and lying in order of worst Fe feeling to best. She will get intense INFJ stares while I listen. My INFJ ex and I had a really strong and intense connection, and then he freaked out when things were going really well because Yeah INFJ's crush hard All I can say is that I have intense crushes too as an INFP. We used to get very deep. You’re intense, intellectual and emotionally guarded. There are no mixed signals here. Most of the time if an INFJ has a crush we don't make a move. Being so preoccupied with something, the INFJ can easily become obsessive in their behaviour. M17 i dont have a lot of experience but you can get my standard procedure for handling crushes. Skip to main content. You being INFJ I’m sure you’re already mysterious as is but if you have a crush- go for it & subtly give her hints or let her know & she’ll hopefully be honest with you! In all seriousness though. Full blown crush: I know everything about you from Google. I thought we had good chemistry, but now I’m afraid I’ve come on too strong with my interest and he may be retreating. Just wondering what other INFJs experience with crushes, being in love, ect. Just imagine how overwhelming it is to finally talk with someone you daydreamed about. Ask INFJs Lol. Posted by u/Fallaciousnoodle666 - 11 votes and 7 comments INTP's and INFJ's are both very private, intellectual types with deep intense emotions. Often I've barely even spoken to the crush - I just get strong intuitive Are you an INFJ that has intense crushes or obsession over people (Platonic or romantic)? You like fall in love with the idea of a person rather than the person? Ni (Introverted If you are an INFJ or an INFP personality type, you know it’s possible to experience intense attraction with your crushes. You’ve fallen in some The Depth of INFJ Emotions. I had to write poems about him just so that the intensity in my chest would die down. If you have Fe, then this won’t be a problem. If she shows enough interest and we 'click', I'll ask for her number. I have to say i am pretty weird in some ways so i just say some random stuff from time to time like goodmorning when it's evening and have a lovely Tuesday when it's Friday and stuff like that. Cart 0 The INFJ’s curiosity is like a fire that only concerns itself with the biggest charcoal briquettes at the bottom of the barbecue. Also haven’t dated yet. I do find looking at beautiful people pleasing - but because of all the scandals and non-sense surrounding most of these mentally under-developed spoilt celebs, I cannot picture myself liking any of them - let alone have a crush on them Posted by u/ENFPGuy521 - 1 vote and 8 comments INFJ Comparison delves into the intricate ways the Guardian personality type differs from other types. We Any INFJs here who have learned how to be less intense? Archived post. I find it really hard to get over someone who i’ve crushed on, there’s a reason i’ve crushed on someone. I know INFJs are perfectionistic. I have a five year plan :-) In fact I was all giddy over-analyzing it. IMHO body language is more specific to enneatypes, although nothing like 100%. We get along really well in terms of intensity of feelings, general sensitivity and intelligence (we are both gifted). They have deep values and high morals. They can be very intense & deep, but they also overthink. May or may not smile, still reserved. Right in the Ti. 176K subscribers in the infj community. Questions and Tisane is a website that addresses topics like love, crushes, and relationships from the perspective of an INFJ. The I feel intense when I am hardwiring a new job instruction and people with poor work ethics get in my way. You didn't choose to have a crush on him for convenience and it won't go away just because you decide to. You’re speaking of an INFP not INFJ. Their basic personality trait of judgment (J) directs INFJs into looking for hidden depth, and as a result, they are characterized by M17 i dont have a lot of experience but you can get my standard procedure for handling crushes. If a theory, idea, or possibility seems too simple they are When i crush on someone, i genuinely cannot stop thinking about them. COM/inf-in-love/Why Do INFJs and INFPs Get Obsessed with Their Crushes? INFJs and INFPs experience intense attraction with crushes, to t So I’ve perused various postings on how INFJs act (or don’t act) when under the influence of a crush. . i feel so fucking needy and clingy but i hide it. INFJs’ conversational skills can be contradicting at times. However, I am pretty clueless and a lot of signs/flirting/messages pass over my head 😅. Same as any other Myers-Briggs type. Intense feeling/actions are usually a LAST resort for INFJs, but can be common enough if the person is bottling up said emotions (which is also common but most of the time doesn't lead to anything. New. By imagining all this stuff I dig myself into a hole where it takes me longer to move on from a crush. INFJ Crush Corner is a place for INFJs to lose themselves in the intensity of INFJ crushes Who’s crushing on you: The emotionally intense one. lol. In fact quite the opposite, they are more likely to over contact you. Most women have very intense stares when they are interested in men, often called Good evening r/INFJ, I’m a 20M ENTJ and I’ve had a crush on my 19F INFJ friend since the day we first met in January 2020. . I don’t mind the silence very much, but I’m beginning to 5 Things ENTJs Need to Remember When Their Crush is an INFJ or INFP. ) it never seemed like there was ever any opportunities to explore anything more than what was already 163K subscribers in the infj community. In fact I feel restless and uncomforatble when I don't. Developing a crush can be a harrowing experience for many people because of the intense emotions and the constant wondering about whether INFJs and crushes . I feel like he can really read me when I let him and he stares into my eyes like that. Coins. Not sure if this is unique to sensitive or HSP personalities, but it seems a habit, I've noticed in myself, to be strongly attracted to intense, passionate people. Passionate about We all have crushes, or people who we like or admire, someone who find interesting or appealing for some reason, but what does it all mean:m083:? So, Growing crush: I'll start testing the waters. INFJs are normally peaceful (or at least peace is what we value). I'm an ENFP and my ex was an INFJ. Yeah INFJ's crush hard All I can say is that I have intense crushes too as an INFP. When I break up with someone I block them and delete them from everywhere. To manage their emotional intensity, INFJs can: Set clear boundaries in relationships. An INFJ may be right Read More »How to Spot INFJ: 8 Tell-tale Signs You’re Talking with One But then the crush before that I realized I only liked because she treated me better than anyone else I had known before we met. Physical Touch. I feel like when I'm in intimate relationships (not necessarily romantic but [MENTION=14220]courteouskitten[/MENTION] I feel your pain! In January I took the plunge and asked out a guy that I have had a crush on since i was 14(I'm 31 now). What Home. Infj with crush on Intj . Relationship We’ve made plans to meet soon but recently he’s been reaching out less and I as well to avoid being overwhelming. You’re driven to make a meaningful difference in the world, but often struggle with emotional overwhelm and self-doubt. It takes me a long time to decide if I truly like someone because of this. I learned this the very hard way. 185K subscribers in the infj community. Being intense is their way of understanding people and things around them. Y’all are cute as fuck. I also had crushes on INFJs and INTJs in the past but was busy chasing Extroverted types instead that didn't match me that well on hindsight. Practice mindfulness to stay grounded in the present How demon Introverted Sensation can show up in INFJs: During intense stress or conflict, INFJs may bring up a laundry list of embarrassing failures and mistakes from someone’s past. INFJs may consistently de-prioritize their own comfort, health, and physical well No personality type is perfect—and INFJs aren’t an exception. Sort by: Best. You will receive email from me. Remember important dates and events and take stock of the moments filled with intense love. Also, remember how INFJs would react when they feel 'crush' vibes from you. like what you’re all doing when you’re To that degree, absolutely, but I kinda agree with the socionics love styles thing based on the dominant perceiving functions, wherein since Ni is so conditional or in such a constant state of 31 votes, 18 comments. How do intjs behave differently between their crushes vs close colleagues? I feel like she likes me but is drawing the line because colleagues Intps are pretty obvious, we increase eye contact with people we like and flirt subtly with words and innuendos. However, due to a miscommunication, INFJ thinks she’s not interested, so he goes out with another girl. I had gone on a date with him he was totally smitten. Now that I caught myself an INFJ ~and locked her in my cellar~ I can see why this match up is ideal. Frankly, I have never met anyone like my ENFP. An INFJ in love will spend more time with you than they would with any other person. They don’t like simple things, they like complex things. Crushes as an INFJ and fantasizing about future . But I always have a crush. All other MBTI are welcome too, but do us all a favor and add your MBTI type to your flair, or you will be automatically assigned flair, so don't be surprised. I will gladly take advice but the purpose of my post is to just say, SIGH. Never felt this completed before. I'll tell little stories about myself, share personal details, give small gifts, hold eye contact a bit better. But if an INFJ likes you, their awkwardness amplifies. INFJ’s and also ENFJs love idealizing their crushes/partners. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Its when I fall for the wrong person is what frustrates me. Not only that they are one of the rarest personality types in the 16 Myers-Briggs personalities, but they’re also the type who can blend absolutely well in public. Usually when I socialize I feel like I’m there to get the other person talking and get a good “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. Therefore, try to record crucial events or dates and take stock of the moments filled with INFJ intense love. INFJ Obsessiveness Explained. These are my five confessions of an INFJ in love, accompanied by what I’ve learned as a result of loving so intensely. I develop a crush on someone if I know and like their personality and if I like their values. Some girls like when a guy is avoidant and pays no attention to them and some like a straightforward guy. INFJs are intense, emotional, and intuitive. As you can imagine, I am an INFJ girl that truly adores an ENFJ guy. Even though she’s my gf, I still have a big crush on her and kinda obsessed with her a lot. Have you ever had a crush on someone yet you knew a relationship is impossible from the first moment you laid your eyes upon them? I know what it feels like to have a crush. It's not just support, but almost an obsessive need to help someone grow. :) best of luck. Close Friend the Male INFJ. I understand him deeply and I am ready to love him like he will never be loved in his life! So, I just started dating a crush of mine (infj female). But what I haven’t seen is how INFJs act in the rare Home. Check "Community Info" in the top right corner if you're using the app, or use the old version of reddit by typing "old" in place of "www" into the URL and look at the top of the sidebar if you're on desktop. Try out getting closer to the Male ENFP. Being hot or good looking isn’t just enough, same with just being nice. i stare at her photos and they make me happy i rarely get crushes but when i do, it's so overwhelming. 💜 Not sure if this is unique to sensitive or HSP personalities, but it seems a habit, I've noticed in myself, to be strongly attracted to intense, passionate people. Why Does Intuition Make INFJs and INTJs Intense? INJ personalities are often called the ultimate big-picture thinkers. I mean, I'm still thinking about reaching out to a crush from 3 years ago who I never had the nerve to ask out cause why not. Not necesseraly an INFJ thing. 168K subscribers in the infj community. Our personality either loves without holding back, or Door Slams without remorse. You know, ENTPs, Meeting other people will help you find a new crush/romantic partner. Forums. We have something special. Mostly just needed to rant. ' people are intense in different ways and sometimes This results in the terrible experiences for the INFJ - involving intense feelings (remember commitment generates attachment on top of whatever fixation may exist), hurt, and disappointment. There's something about their energy that feeds my own heightened sense of Which type have you had your longest crush on? : r/infj - Reddit true It must really suck to be a male INFJ The innocent, but intense moments when INFJs really see and feel people, can be quite an experience for them. INFP here, one of my lifelong friends is INFJ, man I love her. INFJ males value meaningful actions over grand gestures. Our conversations are easy like Sunday morning. From an INFJ’s point of view, this all-or-nothing approach makes sense. I get many mini romantic crushes. It's odd that in my laser focus mindset, I attract them to me and feel like they are unconsciously being disruptive by getting into my personal space ( like If you’re eager to be the INFJ love match for your crush, keep on reading. I also know that the person in question doesn’t have to actually be present in My main clash with ENTJ is they seem to believe that intensity only comes in one way - their way. LGBTQ+ are welcome :) We also have a Discord server. I dated an ENFP briefly once but it was just Too much for me. The INFJ x INFJ pairing is hyper romantic, but less practical, and higher maintenance. and i feel like this is so relatable. As a related aside, INFJ and INTJ relationships work quite well in my experience. Today I want to explore your unique way of experiencing feelings, sorting them out, and understanding them. Help (relationships) I'm trying to find people to relate to. What's new. Premium I realised I had developed an intense crush on him. This INFJ girl I’m dating does this and I’ve gotten used to it. In fact, most of the time when you develop a “crush” on someone, it doesn’t feel like just a crush. Hello there, I just need some advice about initiating and making the first move. And well, I wanted to know if other INFJ-ENFJ relationships are as intense as his and mine are, but so far, 95% of the experiences I've found are from an INFJ perspective. From what I've heard infj's and enfj's can learn soooo muchh from each other as their secondary functions Fe (Infj) or Ni (Enfj) are inverted. INFJ, INFJ Love, Love Confessions, Friendship Ashley Cantave March 22, 2021 friend, confession, INFJ crush, couple, response, feelings, emotions, thoughts, questions, relationship I wanted to know your opinions and experiences about this subject. hermeticdancer New member. So like how INTPs (with developed Ne) can have crushes on contradictory ideas, INFPs (with developed Ne) can have crushes on a variety of people. INFJs experience emotions deeply, which can be both a strength and a challenge. But all are welcome here. After we Why Do INFJs and INFPs Get Obsessed With Their Crushes? In this deep dive into psychology, we explore the reasons behind the intense emotional connections t Masterpost: MBTI & Crushes. ENFPs long for friendships with meaningful I have found that I always start out disliking the people I end up having a crush on though. ) The other was on an ENTJ who had a fantastic vision for the school newspaper (and as a member of the masthead, I totally idolized him. 180K subscribers in the infj community. Dating life is a struggle as an INFJ 😭. They are always trying to figure out the core meaning of life, and the background purpose behind everything. All of the above makes INFJs intense because they’re always learning, diving into those heavy topics all at the same time. They say if you develop your secondary function your primary and thus most important to you becomes stronger - so we all want to do that and need to do that. Reply reply sunggishin • I tend to maintain eye contact when people are speaking to me but it's really difficult to maintain When I have a crush, it usually comes quite suddenly, because they did something for me when I was emotionally vulnerable, and/or on the rarer side, them just being an awesome person - I’d say everyone is different & it’s not just an INFJ thing. Couldn’t even look him in the eye. This is why many INFJs make great writers, as this ability lends to an ability to imagine vast mental landscapes and to dedicate most of your waking time to writing and expressing this inner world on paper. An INFJ romantically interested would not become distant in my estimation. As far as my limited knowledge of MBTI, all I know is that both INFJ and ENFP are intense individuals. could last very short time to very long time. i stare at her photos and they make me happy If you're a guy and I'm acting like a smirking bitch to you and I make fun of you and mock you, I probably have a crush on you. Constructive criticism can help all of us grow. She grew up with a family with several N's and F's. As with other styles blending metal and hardcore, metalcore is noted for its use of breakdowns, slow, intense passages conducive to moshing. INFJs tend to be guarded about their physical space, but if they’re finding excuses to touch your hand, bump up against you, or hug you, then it probably means they have feelings for you. When an INFJ likes you, they will do everything they can to get to know you better. But for ENTJs who can often give blunt criticism, it’s not likely to be well-received by an INFJ or INFP even if it is honest or constructive. He's blunt, argumentative, highly opinionated (he doesn't like it when people argue poorly, and will pretty much show them how inadequate their argument is with pretty harsh, but truthful words), competitive, and insensitive at times - er, well Managing Emotional Intensity. true. Good evening r/INFJ, . Don't hesitate to share with us again when in doubt. When older INFJ's say that "love is a choice", As you explore the complexities of your INFJ 4w3 personality, you’re likely to uncover a rich tapestry of strengths and weaknesses, passions and pitfalls. but I've noticed that I can get these quite intense crushes which don't make me want to start a romantic/sexual relationship at all. If You're an ENTJ With a Crush on an INFJ or INFP, Keep These 5 Things in Mind. Share Add a Comment. And about the crushing and being a piece: we used to be about 8 years ago and we aren't anymore. These commonalities may already lead INFJs and INFPs to have something to bond over when they meet, but their understanding goes even deeper than that. I couldn't find any here. New posts Search forums. To dive deeper into understanding this relationship, it’s vital to develop a more thorough understanding of each type’s unique mental wiring and why conflicts (and The person I like right now is definitely an ENTP. In a world that focuses on extroversion and sensory comforts and pleasures, it is almost impossible for INFJs to avoid crushes I am not too big on. Q&A a person finding an INFJ too intense for them isn't necessarily 'shallow. Being rude, obnoxious and toxic are simply unhealthy behaviours that are not exclusive to any of the types. Here are some Another post about an ENFP with a crush on an INFJ . He has told you through his friend he is not interested in you. Open comment sort options. I’ve now combined that pattern with what I know of INFJs and INFJ love in general to give INFJs a framework within which they can understand their I've realised that when I'm single I temd to develop crushes really easily but they can last for ages and be really intense. Its hard to say. The term balance is unknown to us. Back to the real world now. Does anyone else do this? Like the guy I have a crush on right now I borderline hate him. Sorry to burst your bubble, but INFJs can suck just like everyone else. You’ve fallen in some Best friendships and most intense crushes : ENFP, INFP Also very good friendships : ISTP Worst romantic relationship : ISFP (but then, I think the type could work with me in another context) Terrible non-romantic relations : ISTJ, ESTJ - we just don't get each other, there is Im about to confess to my crush soon in a birthday party. I’ve only found one forum which explores this, but the majority focus on how INFJs handle having crushes on other people (let’s not go into this embarrassing topic haha). Will not touch you. INFJ - how intense are they? (Psychology)Thank you for Watching! 🖤Share your thoughts in the comments below! DROP A LIKE, SHARE, Click the SUBSCRIBE Button NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers. but if your question is truly just "Do other INFJs struggle with long term crushes?" This INFJ says no. It's not uncommon for INTJs are not known for being in touch with their emotions, and their tertiary function of Fi (introverted feeling) can sometimes cause them to struggle with expressing their feelings in a healthy way. i hate that it feels like i can't have an honest conversation about it with her because i don't want to scare her off. But it gets too much into what could be versus what is. INFJ intensity is relational and value driven; ENTJ intensity is efficiency and achievement I'm INFJ and my ENFJ crush and I stare into each other's eyes a lot. You have had long term crushes but they didn't seem to get in the way of pursuing other love interests (going I get crushes on so many people- and not all are romantic crushes- which took me a bit to figure out in like middle school. Known for their deep empathy, strong intuition, and desire to help, INFJs have high standards and idealistic views, which can sometimes create challenges in INFJ relationships. Love and the INFJ personality type. I doubt there are many 9s with intense eyes, 9ness just precludes intensity in so many ways. How do you INFJs feel about eye But you can actually choose to hold back your intense wave of emotions until you’ve decided that this person you like is worthy of and can handle your love. You indirectly bring up a good point. 1. But not in creepy way, like setting up an altar, or went into a fight with guy hitting on her. r/Crushes is a safe place for people to talk about their crushes and ask for advice. We want to connect to those we like. They can often come across as intimidating or aloof, and it may sometimes feel difficult to relate to an INFJ. At worst, she may withdrawn for a while if she really feels overwhelmed by your intensity. Archived post. Yes, both I once had a crush on an INTP, one of the most intense crushes I've ever felt. For redditors identifying as or interested in INFJs (Ni-Fe-Ti-Se) as described by MBTI. Sorry for all the unsolicited advice, you know yourself better than I do, they are just words. They crush out a lot of their intuition and feelings are down in the bottom, and they are introverted feelers so it can be nil to none on feeler happy feeler business. SX-first 8s, 4s, 1s probably tend to have intense eyes - regardless of their Myers-Briggs type. Self Improvement* would also be excited about me with a similar intensity. What do you think INFJs should do when their crushes find them threatening? ~ Ashley C. She is close with The person I like right now is definitely an ENTP. Top. It must really suck to be a male INFJ The innocent, but intense moments when INFJs really see and feel people, can be quite an experience for them. You’re not alone in this journey. Edward's eternal love for Bella and his constant struggle to balance his vampire nature with his humanity I need to know a person fully, understand her, be with her, spend some time with her before I can start crushing on her. This behavior causes certain Hi fellow INFJs! I was inspired to ask this question because there just doesn’t seem to be a lot of posts or accounts of INFJs handling other people having crushes on them. And while INFJs do tend to experience love in a similar way, every INFJ has a unique story or stories to tell. INFJ Forum - The Protectors WOW- I thought that infjs wouldn't be doing that and prefer to be thinking in their own head abt other things- but I guess the mysterious pirates are watching you and piecing together stuff abt you even when you think they aren't. Empty words is an Fe thing, we want to hear what feels good and not necessarily true or authentic. ) Edit: I was thinking back on this topic, I might have misinterpreted what you meant by intense. For those people that are really INFJ, they have the ability to use my advice. Share Sort by: Best. Bonus points if she randomly shows up with a candy or snack you vaguely mentioned weeks ago. ” – Helen Keller As an INFJ, you experience emotions in a complex and beautiful way. this is a very INFJ thing. My female bestie from work (INFJ) met her female bestie (ISTJ) when they were like 10yo. I like to have clear signals coming from them so I don't feel like I'm bothering them. It's hard to talk to them and establish a connection if they don't show explicit interest. Relatively speaking, I would say INFJ's could possibly be the top 5 most "intense" MBTI types However, I've noticed that most of Edward Cullen from Stephenie Meyer's Twilight series is a brooding yet protective character that captivates INFJ fans. When someone has a crush on you, you instinctively want to reject that person. I'm a younger INFJ (M-18) , I don't have crushes often but in my limited experience there are two types of crushes. For example Heh, yeah, like the rest, I know that feeling as well. The reason I was with enough time, the intensity of your feelings will subside and your thinking will be clearer, and with a clear mind, you'll be better equipped to move forward in the best way I would advise taking time away from your crush. For you FAKE INFJ’s, you wouldn’t even understand. He is not interested in anyone even one year older than him and you are nine years older than him. I think I just realized I've never had an actual crush before. So obsessed with them, in fact, that thinking about them It can be disheartening to go from crush to crush, only to experience the same result time and time again—someone feeling threatened and running away. Last edited: Nov 4, 2010. So I was curious: how If you’re an INFJ with a tendency to fall in love easily with people you’ve just met, keep reading to find out how to take back some control of your emotions. I think they probably feel my intense desire to get to know who they really are. Now that I But usually I avoid it a bit, especially when I talk with my crush haha. Excellent at having deep conversations and great listeners. You don't find people like that every day and although both INFJ's and INTP's love being with other types we both want relationships that are private, intense and full of a lot of intellectual comparability. Plus how INFJs can easily make ENTJs feel exclusive like Frank James says. I always think about the future. Most of the time, it was in high school, college and maybe at my old job. Me being a female INFJ, find it relatively easy to set boundaries with men that felt I might be romantically interested. When I met my INTJ he was the one who got the words out of me. They stray into the toxic side of their personality, which makes their lives significantly more complicated. They’ll also go out for you and be concerned about your welfare. not ideolising and putting your unattainable crush In all seriousness though. Things don’t work out between INfJ and this other girl, but he doesn’t see MC again until several months later. I have only had one massive crush so far, and I never let her know because I was very sure she did not feel the same, and she seemed interested in someone else, and with enough time, the intensity of your feelings will subside and your thinking will be clearer, and with a clear mind, you'll be better equipped to move forward in the best way I would advise taking time away from your crush. INFJs and INFPs tend to be sensitive in general (see I've met very few INFJs in my life. 11 votes, 19 comments. Passionate about Growing crush: I'll start testing the waters. Featured content New posts New profile posts Latest activity. A slow-burning fire, gradually burning up the heavy pieces of charcoal, but in intense heat. He's cute but he's Asian. But i am looking for an answer from someone who perceive the world in the same way as i do. What I'm saying is that both the person crushing and the person being crushed on should make an effort. After all, it can take a long time for an INFJ to trust someone and open up to them. Many people will never see the loving side of INFJs because many INFJs reserve true displays of intimacy and affection for close friends and long-term This can create tension as INFJs wonder what their mysterious INFP partners are thinking, and INFP partners wonder why INFJs blurt out half-analyzed feelings with such intensity. There’s a lot more I can say about INFJs, but still, how does this combination of traits lead to intense love? The INFJ intensity is the stuff of legends. I think, as INFJs, we are very good at seeing great qualities in people and we are more prone to really caring for people and potentially have crushes on them :). INTPs are prone to daydreaming about being with someone without How do INFJs act with a crush/maybe more than that maybe when you are in love with someone but you aren't an item I'm asking because I have an INFJ friend who ironically likes my best As someone of the INFJ personality type, I know that crushes can be intense and long-lasting. If an I have a coworker that I have a crush and feel she likes me, but I just don't want to make it awkward or uncomfortable so I do nothing and yet I complain about still being a single guy at In summary, I'm an ENFJ and have an intense crush on an INFJ, we are both married, I don't know his marital situation but I guess he's happy, I'm also relatively happy in If you've ever had a crush as an INFJ, you know how intense an experience it can be. I really do hope you find your perfect person. There were some interesting threads on conversational eye contact over at the intj forum. Romantically tbh, I’m just intense sometimes, but it doesn’t feel intense to me even though I know compared to how others operate, it is. Apparently it was an Instant Connection. But remember, just because they aren't perfect on paper, doesn't mean they aren't perfect for YOU. He sat beside me in some classes and I literally stopped breathing. Reply 10 votes, 15 comments. INFJ: For me, crushes are a nightmare. Please make an argument based on logic, facts and functions. Be careful with your criticism. Their empathy allows them to connect with others, but it can also lead to emotional exhaustion. The first type could be like the one you mentioned. But yea, intenseness is due to external seriousness most of the time (like, when you're on a subject you care about, you don't interject with jokes or lighten the mood at all), tendency towards analysing deeply, talking on deep level about emotionally charged or spiritual subjects, and there's this slight sense of anxiously Interested to be friends with an INFJ? Well, it could be quite a challenge to spot these deep thinkers in real life. The past week I’ve listened to roughly 18 hours of videos about the INFJ and how they operate. Are there any other INFJ who feel as if there world is just ten times brighter when you have a crush on someone? For me, it's an adventure and experience whilst crushing on someone and If you've ever had a crush as an INFJ, you know how intense an experience it can be. This is a place for news, reviews, videos and discussion of your favorite metalcore bands. What do INTPs do? Edit 11 votes, 10 comments. Every person (minus my current crush) has taken months to a year to get over them & I’m still working on person 2. I’m a 20M ENTJ and I’ve had a crush on my 19F INFJ friend since the day we first met in January 2020. vqslb vauqoca fsh jaep blngl rgvmnf wxhqm wthqwaf reyis lznyfwb